Godspeed, Steve!

All of what I firmly remember about Steve Vidinha is culled from one portion of our Hawaii ALS Annual Christmas program two years ago.  We were in the same randomly assigned group that, like all the others, had to compete singing and acting out a Christmas song, the title of which we had to draw from a hat. Of course, for the life of me, I can't remember the title of the song. As a group, our performance was ... meh.

What stands out in memory is Steve's surprising performance -  he poured out his heart and lungs into the song, contorting himself in his wheelchair to deliver the most power to his voice. He was so animated, he brought to mind somebody singing his guts out because, by golly, he was going to win!  When the results came in, it didn't seem to matter to Steve that we lost.  He good-naturedly laughed.  Ito make his condition worse, he probably developed and busted an hernia in the process.  But he nokeah!  He wrung every ounce of strength in his body, every decibel of sound from his vocal chords, every grain of passion in his heart. That was what mattered.

All my other encounters with Steve - brief meets, phone, and email - reinforced this picture of a man who spares nothing to achieve a goal. He loved to win but, win or lose, what appears paramount to him is the process of giving himself totally. And I bet he expected everyone around him to do the same.

Where he is now, Steve suffers no limits. In fact, Steve no longer suffers. He is where he is always a winner. Always the best. Always among the best.

Godspeed, Steve (Teban). You were one of a kind.

           Steve's Celebration of Life will be August 5, 2017 at St. Ann's in Kaneohe. 10:30 am Visitation/ 12nn Eulogy/ 2pm burial at HI Memorial/ 3-7pm Reception Party @Pohai Nani. Street Parking. Family requests no flowers please but all donations can be made to his Walk to Defeat ALS website or Island's Hospice.  

Godspeed, Tracy Sherman!

I had not seen Tracy for a long time. And now, I will not see her anymore in this lifetime.  You see, I learned from another friend in our ALS support group that Tracy had passed away unexpectedly. I was incredulous. I said, You're kidding! and immediately logged on to Tracy's FB page where I got the news firsthand.

People with ALS are told that the illness is 100% fatal. When you get diagnosed with it, you know where it will lead you. But Tracy did not have ALS. Her mom, Nancy did, and somewhere in this site, I wrote her a farewell blog. Much like this one.

I never thought I would write one for Tracy, this soon.

So I wrack my brain for what Tracy represented to me and this is what forms when I think of her.  A beautiful oval face with large dark eyes that easily tear up.  She loved life as much as she loved her cats. She came to Honolulu many years ago, because she was fascinated by its beauty and she wanted to be enveloped in that beauty, to wake up in beautiful sunrises, and to lose herself in its sunsets.

She bought a home for herself. And started her enchanting life. It was turned upside down when her mom, Nancy, was diagnosed with ALS and needed care.  Of course, within those lovely dark eyes is love without measure. And mom came to live with Tracy.

Tracy and I talked a lot about caring for our loved ones: the ups and downs, the dramas and conflicts that come with caregiving, the personal angst of what we give up for those we love.  Then Nancy passed away. Slowly, we lost touch. Occasionally, I would get or give a "poke" on FB. But our busy lives claim us as she wended her way, alone again, and I?  Still 24/7 cocooned in caregiving for Britt.

Then this.

What can I say, Trace? Sorry for not having caught up with you? Sorry for not being there, where I imagine you felt kind of footloose after the intensity of caregiving? Sorry for not saying, I'm still here? Sorry for not validating when I intuited you were asking for help?

I may never know what life was for you after we parted ways. Little by little you retreated from FB. Until you retreated from my consciousness. How puny our mortal attentions are! Though genuine, how transient our devotions!

But not my memories of you - the gal who had wrapped wonder, concern, filial love, ache for life, boundless curiosity, and humanity in one existence! So much. SO MUCH, within you. SO MUCH, of you, will live forever.

Godspeed, my dear friend! Spread those wings and soar! Suffer no more.

Godspeed, Pete Badua!

It is rare that we post deaths from among members of our Ohana who is not a pALS.  But Pete is an exceptional creature of love.  He was there for all of us, not only for Celeste Perkins - his wife, Vicky's sister - who died many years ago from complications of ALS.  He was always quiet on the sidelines, making his voice heard through his pictures, some of which he has shared with us on this blog site. He was an avid photographer obviously.  He saw in photography an articulate medium for his thoughts and he sure clicked away with great enthusiasm!

Pete passed away after a battle with leukemia, with Vicky, his loving wife by his side. Sometimes, our puny human strength gives way to the superior, sneaky attacks of illness. How we all know of that, having encountered our collective scourge, ALS, many, many painful times.  But what we also know exceptionally well is that while we are subject to the whims of these torments of mortals, OUR PEOPLE HAVE ALWAYS RISEN TO THE OCCASION, WITH DIGNITY AND GRACE.

Pete and Vicky are no exception. With uncommon grace and élan, they have persevered with love through the process of Pete's living with and dying of the cancer.  May we all share in their strength.

Our prayers for healing go to Vicky and their family.

And to Pete, may you rest in God's peace.

I am a better person to have known you in this life.

ALS Residence for Hawaii: An Indispensable Link in the Chain of Care Essentials for Families Living with ALS

          All of us know the physical ravages and threats to a pALS’s emotional, familial, and spiritual integrity from ALS. These are the trauma that a pALS goes through as an individual and, if he is lucky enough to have one, his family as well. Since the 1800’s when Jean Marie Charcot first described the illness, there has been tremendous improvement in the understanding of the complexity of care required by pALS. This improvement has led to better treatment protocols, more appropriate home care technology, more supportive legislation, and other benefits. These dramatic changes helped lengthen the lifespan of pALS, and increase their number. While we are happy from the latter developments, they put into question the appropriateness of the traditional models of longterm care (LTC) today to care for pALS, as these facilities start to admit more and more pALS into their patient mix.
           Don’t get me wrong. We in the ALS community are grateful for and appreciate the willingness of traditional LTC models to take on the care of pALS, care which is a tremendous undertaking for a family to fulfill in their homes. We need, however, to examine the aspects which make these traditional models of LTC facilities inadequate to provide the quality of life that pALS need. First of all, LTC facilities are generally directed towards the care of older patients with different needs: dementia with concurrent chronic illnesses such as post-stroke, cardiac concerns, diabetes, etc. Among other things, the Omnibus Budget Reconciliation Act of 1987, legislation to reform current LTC, mandated that the minimum training of nursing assistants - usually in the front-line of LTC - be fully grounded on care of elderly patients.
           Persons with ALS are a different population from elders. While many pALS are elderly, a good number is also much younger. Although physically, disability as a result of ALS mimics that of older persons, its neuromuscular basis makes it different. In ALS, the mind remains intact. It is only humane to keep that intact mind engaged, valued, and involved in every aspect of care, including socialization, enjoying independence to the full extent possible, and, perhaps even continuing to be a productive member of society. The desire to facilitate the continued development of that intact mind and to keep that spirit hopeful has fueled the nationwide movement called the ALS Residence Initiative or ALSRI

ALS Residence Initiative (ALSRI)

            Formally, ALSRI was started in 2012. Barry Borman was the CEO of the Chelsea Jewish Foundation, a non-profit which runs a number of nursing homes for the elderly in Chelsea, Massachusetts. Steve Saling was a landscape architect when he was diagnosed with ALS in 2006. Both men were not especially happy with the traditional models of elderly care that, ironically, Barry’s nursing homes were operating on. Barry was ready to break with tradition and looking for alternative models for LTC. He had just discharged his mom and taken her home from one of the nursing homes he was managing, for failure to thrive. He had earlier admitted her there after she suffered a stroke, which she needed to recover from.
           Meanwhile, Steve visited a number of nursing homes, in anticipation of his future as a pALS, and found them wanting. As fate would have it, these two men met at an ALSA conference and began discussing ideas of a home that will provide quality care which valued independence, and a meaningful, purposeful, and dignified life for their patients. The Leonard Florence Center for Living (LFCL), an urban-style high-rise caring for a mix of seniors, pALS, and people with multiple sclerosis, was inaugurated in 2010 as a result of their meeting. The Steve Saling ALS Residence located in the second floor of LFCL was the first ALS home in the country. Last year, only the third ALS home in the US – the Dapper McDonald ALS Residence – opened its doors in the third floor of the building. What made the care at the LFCL, and in particular the two ALS residences under its roof, different from the traditional nursing home was that it was based on the Green House Project (GHP) concept of care.

The Green House Project

           In the early 1990’s, Dr. Bill Thomas, a Harvard-educated activist, rocked the longterm care establishment by introducing the Eden Alternative. This philosophy attacks the age-old practice of institutionalizing elders in nursing homes providing minimum unenlightened care where they are objectified as mere care recipients, tasks to be completed, with little or no human interaction with the care providers. Thomas insisted that this kind of care made elders prone to helplessness, boredom, and loneliness.
          To translate his Eden Alternative philosophy to brick and mortar terms, Thomas founded the Green House Project (GHP), a national non-profit organization dedicated to creating alternative living environments to the traditional nursing home. A typical GHP home is small, has a low staff to resident ratio, individual rooms for residents, a home-like interior and an atmosphere that encourages independence, humane interaction, and dignity. In 2005, the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation, one of the country’s biggest philanthropies, gave a 5-year $10M grant to establish GHP homes in all 50 states. At this time, there are more than 200+ GHP homes in 27 states. Unfortunately, there is none in Hawaii.

ALSRI: Nation-wide and in Hawaii 

            In their ALSRI website, Barry and Steve encourage others to start their own efforts at setting up an ALS Residence in their respective states. There are now three ALS Residences in the US: two in the LFCL in Chelsea, MA and one - the Steve Gleason House - in New Orleans, LA. There are groups working for ALS Residences in other states: Maine, Texas, Maryland, and Georgia.
           Steve and Barry believe that there are two conditions needed to open an ALS: 1) attachment to a mission-driven, non-profit nursing facility to provide the care; and 2) supplemental funding to assure the care unique to the ALS residents. Since the nursing home will expect the residents to be on Medicaid, the supplemental funding will be responsible for providing those aspects of the patient’s care that are not covered by Medicaid, especially the state-of-the-art technology required to facilitate communication, ventilation, and mobility to ensure independence and quality of life of the residents.
           Here in Hawaii, four individuals (Bob Lundy of the Big Island, Ronaele Whittington, Katherine O’Connor and I) joined the slowly growing number of people called Super Advocates, who believed in the goal of ALSRI. Bob is a veteran Marine who was diagnosed with ALS in 2011. Kathy’s brother, Brian has ALS and has been a patient in the Care Center of Hawaii for 12 years. Ronaele is a long distance caregiver to her daughter in California who has ALS. After having ALS for 31 years, my own husband, Britt, passed away from ALS complications in 2015. The common denominator among our lives is our very close and personal encounters with ALS.
           Determined to go beyond being Super Advocates, we met to discuss plans to establish one in our state. Following the example of the other states, we decided to form a non-profit called the ALS Foundation of Hawaii. Currently, we are in the process of incorporating this entity and subsequently, applying for tax-exemption from the IRS to facilitate the growth of the multi-million dollars fund required to maintain a fully functioning ALS Residence.
            Among other plans to disseminate information about this exciting effort, we will develop a website and other social media platforms. The process to get a non-profit status (501c3) takes around 6-8 months, but we are already planning the development of other aspects to make this organization viable, and getting the work done. Until our website is up, please keep checking this blogsite and leaving your comments. You can also email me at hialshale@gmail.com, a new personal address that I have dedicated only to HI ALS Residence matters.
            We realize this is a bold effort and these are baby steps we are taking. We also know that many of us share this dream and would like to see these efforts succeed. We are under no illusion that making the dream come true is going to be easy. We are humble enough to understand that it is bigger than all of us combined. But we also know, that the aloha among us and our various communities – our ALS family as well as our state – is big-hearted and all-encompassing enough to make an ALS Residence in Hawaii a reality for all of us to use, enjoy, and be proud- NOT ONLY of being a part of this effort, but as citizens of the State of Hawaii - of owning this dream and making it come true!

September happenings in Aloha-land!

A. MDA ALS Support Group "Fall into Fall" POTLUCK Picnic

         Every year in September, we head out to our picnic spot at Ala Moana for our Annual "Fall into Fall" potluck.  The BIG reason is that QCC has no room for us on the second Tuesday of every September. That's why.  Always a great chance to have fun and socialize, as we welcome the ....ber months: September, October.....They could also be called the ....brrr months as fall weather starts nipping at our toes. So, please gear up to be at the picnic!! See you all there!

WHAT: MDA ALS Support Group Potluck
WHERE: Ala Moana Beach Park Site #30 (ewa-side of the Magic Island parking lot below)
WHEN: September 14, 2016, 5:30-7pm
WHAT TO BRING: Picnic food to share, chairs, keikis and tutus

B. ALSA-Hawaii "Walk to Defeat ALS"

    

     Here's another important annual event to participate in. Be part of what's sure to be the biggest ALSA-Hawaii Walk to Defeat ALS yet. Join an existing Walk team or start your own. Register today at http://web.alsa.org/2016HawaiiWalk

WHEN: Saturday, September 17, 2016, 8 am-12 nn.
WHERE: Kapiolani Regional Park, 2805 Monsarrat Ave., 
Honolulu, HI 96815

      The two-mile walk is open to the public and all funds raised will support the mission-critical priorities of The ALS Association Golden West Chapter in research, care services, and public policy initiatives.
When you Walk to Defeat ALS®, you directly impact the programs and services that benefit people living with ALS across the nation and right here in our community. This year the Hawaii community has decided to raise $100,000 to benefit these programs. We hope to see you there!

      If you need help registering or have any questions call Kahala Howser at 808.888.9627 or email khowser@alsagoldenwest.org.  Also, if you're unable to make it to the Walk this year, you can participate as a Virtual Walker or please consider making a donation to support ALSA-Hawaii's mission.

NEW! Support Group Meetings at QCC Format

       The MDA ALS Support Group Meetings have been going on since 1998, when Joyce Okahashi and I first started it. As all support group meetings, attendance waxes and wanes.  However, one thing is very clear: this support group has a life of its own, continuing through the years. Why?  It's because of the people who make it up.  They have been part of it, first, as members who have loved ones with ALS, but after their loved ones have passed, they remained active in the cause because of the friendship that has formed from being part of a wonderful group of caring people.  This legacy could be yours, too.  Friendships are not to be taken for granted. They cannot be bought; they are priceless.

     This upcoming meeting will need your valuable input as we try to organize our life with ALS, using Support Group Meetings as a tool to help us cope with that life. 

      I will be facilitating this and other meetings in the future until MDA comes up with a Health Care Services Coordinator.  I offered to continue facilitating the meetings as a volunteer for the following reasons: 

1. the recent MDA administrative realignments; 

2. to assist our lovely friend, MDA-HAWAII ED Jade Guess, provide the heartfelt service we all need;

3. to save our ALS community's access to the gorgeous QCC (including Harvey, of course); and 

4. to continue providing a SG service to the East, Central and Windward areas of Oahu. 

       Please help us inform other people of this development.  We will also try something new at the end of the meeting (*Teaser). 

       Come. Join. Be part of what could be something you will be proud of the rest of your life.

Godspeed, Rick Raker!

                                                                        July 21, 2016

                                Sing me no dirges
                                Cry me no tears
                                Shorn of body, my spirit soars.