Caregiver Series 2: When Dealing with Cold Weather

     About two weeks ago, a spate of cool weather blanketed Oahu. Out came my flannel peejays, relishing the thought of nice sleeping weather. But not Hubby who thinks 80 degrees is cold - an idea which makes me tease him, a half-Norwegian, "a disgrace to his Viking ancestors." Over the years, ALS took away much of his natural insulation -  muscles and fat - making him shiver away, even while the rest of us enjoy the "most perfect weather in the planet." So what to do in addition to the thick blanket and flannel sheets?

1. Socks and gloves, Hubby-style.  I found knee-high white plush socks at Bed, Bath and Beyond at The Grove in LA, years ago. Fortunately, I bought three pairs at once, because the next year, the knee-high style was discontinued. My children sent me what they could find online - ankle-highs.  So, I wash what I still have in gentle cycle. In a mesh bag. With the frilly underwear (mine, in case you were wondering). I am fiercely online looking for replacement, as socks are aging fast.

I found another use for the ankle-highs though.  I used to struggle with regular five-fingered gloves, making sure I guide each of his fingers into their proper sleeves, a feat which could one day qualify as an Olympic sport. So, until somebody sends me mittens, ankle-high plush socks will do. I just position the thumbs where the heels go.

And oh. They have to be white. Pastels would do, except my Macho Hubby cringes at the hot pinks.  Light colored fabrics are great for finding ants and other creepy crawlies fast.

2. Space-heaters.  Hubby has one at the office and two at home (I like spares.)  UH Saunders Hall is centrally ac'ed. Duct-taping cardboard on the vents works for a while until the law of gravity exerts itself. Hubby buys the heaters online from Best Buy at less than $50 each, from the same company each time.  However, the last one he bought blew our outlet - the plug heated up. We want to keep him warm; not cooked.

3. Environmental management: windows, ceiling fan vs. heatlamp.  This aspect is where, if we are ever going to part ways, this would be THE issue. Having grown-up in Manila (in a neighborhood Son calls a ghetto), in an apartment with few and grilled windows, I love the house we live in now, with its mostly windowed walls letting the fresh windward Hawaii air wend its way through the house.  When we remodeled the master bedroom to accommodate Hubby's needs, we mistakenly put his bed in the path of cross-ventilation.  Hence, at night, he wants the windows closed, and of course, I want them open.  Since all marriages survive on compromise, we have designated some windows, His and others, Hers. Like towels. When I turn on the ceiling fan right above my bed, he can have blazing the heatlamp above his own. (There's also a heatlamp over the potty, where he spends quite a bit of his lifetime, a Robillard trait it seems.)

So there. While I am trying to make light an issue which has the potential for creating discomfort and divorce, let's not forget the fact that when living with ALS, weather temperature is one factor to deal with.  Hubby's beef with 80degree weather notwithstanding, we are still lucky we live Hawaii.

Rememorables: Communication

    Rememorables, n., pl. (sing. rememorable) - 1. something worth remembering.  2. Note-worthy tips or information.  3. The title of this and succeeding posts about such items

     This month's support group meeting focused on "Communication Devices," which featured Kevin Forde-Nihipali's presentation of the Tobii machine as an example of high tech devices using eye-gaze technology, something valuable in advanced stages of ALS. During the discussion, I found myself taking down notes (I call them "rememorables."). These are some of them:

    1. Medicare pays for communication devices, except if the patient is in a hospital or nursing home.
    2. If you have a diagnosis of ALS, you are approved for Medicare within 6 months of applying, when not gainfully employed. Even if you are not yet 65!
    3. Voice-banking: a truly important, forward-looking, symptom-management activity, recommended to be done as early in the disease process as possible. It involves recording your voice uttering sentences, in laughter, making coos, chuckles, and other pleasant (...or not) vocal sounds.  It is important so your children and grandchildren will know how you sound like when you have a voice.  You can also say your favorite phrases and sentiments (for example, "I love you.") in your own voice. How cool is that?
     4. Results of experiments done to rehabilitate disabled veterans, such as mobility devices, have been used to design machines for the civilian disabled population.
 
    Would you like to share your notes from the last meeting?

Baby Sophia Grace Honzaki Shower

     It was a great afternoon - made for a party to welcome to our wild and wacky world, a new addition coming in May to the Honzakis, Her Beloved Highness (HBH) Sophia Grace. So Tutu Nancy, aunties and uncles were in attendance at Paul Gagnon's beautiful home in Kailua. It was also the setting for Tami and George's wedding shower last year, so it was only proper (according to Gerri) that we have it at the same place.  And like last year, we ordered Chinese from Kin Wah, onoliciously augmented by Tutu's yakisoba, Phyllis's potato salad and Armie's homemade rolls.  The moist and yumyum cake from Zippy's was paired with Penny's dreamy almond float (see recipe below).

Front: Robert Burkhard, Tami and George Honzaki and Paul Gagnon; Second row: Armie Burhard, Larry and Gerri Sylvester, Dale Mahi, Tanya Mau-Halsall, Divina Robillard, Nancy Fujino, Kathy O'Connor, Ronaele Whittington, Phyllis Johnson; Back Row: Brad Chun and Paul Mahi

Penny Chun takes Divina's spot while Divina clicks away.

 
     It was a also a day for catching up, as we rarely see the Mahis, Phyllis, the Burkhards, Tanya, and the Chuns, except for HALS events such as our annual yard sale, caregiver happenings, and socials.  So is it any wonder, why our socials are always something we look forward to and perennially a-buzzzzzzzz?

That was not Kathy's headgear for the day;
it is a lovely sculpture.
Phyllis laughs away.

The men in wheels chat away:
Paul, our wonderful host, and Robert.

Lovely ladies Penny, Tanya and Dale

   
     Tanya, our young mom closer in age to events brought about by weddings and storks, brought games such as the "Guess What's in the Diaper" game. Enjoyed by the group of course!

Dale inspects a diaper.

The Honzakis meditate on diaper on hand - one of the many in their future but not quite as delectably nice-smelling.

      For live action on the "Tinkle to the Loo" game (locally translated as "Hapai Making Shi-shi on the Lua"), watch Tanya's video, herein pasted from YouTube.

        


      The opening of presents drew lots of oooohs and aaaaahs as Tami lifted them from gift bags or ripped their paper wraps. Of course, the gift that got the most admiration was the handmade quilt that Aunties Ronaele, Phyllis and Penny, Tutu Nancy and I helped put together.

This princess is going to have lots of costume changes!

         The capstone of the afternoon is watching incredulity, wonder, and a mixed bag of reactions when I took out a bottle of gourmet civet coffee, also known as "cat poop coffee," to share.

                         

Hmmmmmm. Yum yum good.

   

Ronaele reacts when she hears she is drinking coffee
from berries that made it through a feline alimentary system!

     And here's the famous Almond Float by our very own Barefeet Contessa Penny Chun:

ALMOND FLOAT

Unflavored gelatin (4 T or 4 envelopes),

Water

1 1/2 cups sugar

1 1/2 cups (or 1 12-oz can) evaporated milk

3 T Almond extract

mandarin oranges, fruit cocktail, canned lychee

      Dissolve gelatin in 1 cup water. Set aside. Boil sugar in l cup of water. Add gelatin mixture to sugar mixture and stir until completely dissolved. Add milk and 4 cups water and almond extract. Refrigerate until set, about 4 hours or overnight. Cut into cubes and serve with the fruits.

            Using milk or soya milk or rice milk

Dissolve 4T. gelatin with l c. of water

Heat l c. of water with l l/2 c. of sugar and dissolve. Then add gelatin/water mixture till gelatin dissolves. 

Add 5 l/2 c. of milk and 3T. of almond extract.   Refrigerate for @4 hours till set.  Cut into cubes. 

Add fruit cocktail, mandarin oranges, lychee or whatever fruits you desire. 

   

   

      There were many fond memories made this day, the better to share with HBH Sophia Grace when she finally makes her royal entrance.

      Our thanks to Paul who opened his home again for this event; Gerri for being such a sweet hostess; Larry for sharing his gift of artistic decoration; Phyllis, Armie, Penny and Nancy for more food; Tanya for the fun games; and the supporting cast of aunties and uncles who made the afternoon a time to remember!